As I sit here on a Sunday morning, the rain falling mindlessly outside, I think about this moment. There are so many moments in our lives, and what we choose to do with them determines the path we take, our next adventure, even the happiness or suffering, we may feel.
In this moment, we can become angry at the insensitivity of an ignorant politician, remembering his hateful words that hurt, like darts to our hearts. Or we can even make it more personal. We can become lost in our head about something that happened yesterday, last year, or twenty years ago. Dwelling in the unfairness of the situation or blaming another for the pain we were caused. We can even worry about the future, allowing the unknown to stall within depths of our motor, throwing obsessions at us for free.
We have all done all of these scenarios. We know how to do them. It is a habit. We know how to get lost in another time, another feeling, but we do not quite know how to stay in the moment, how to just be. We become anxious, fearful, angry or depressed. We have become so caught up in our lives – doing, achieving, acting – that we do not know why we are here, or care to find out. We do not know how to create peace in our lives and the world around us.
This realization truly hit home the other day, when I walked into the nail salon and there was a girl in a wheel chair, living out her life with a physical disability. She was having a conversation with a woman about how she felt. She was loud, without a care as to who heard. I smiled. Her words were muffled as her mouth did not quite work as efficiently as ours, but we all got her point. While she was trapped in a body that did not work as well as most other humans, she was free to be who she was, acknowledge how she felt at any given moment without regret, fear of judgement or guilt.
These examples are all around us. Each week that I bring my son Drew to child therapy, there is a boy who is always there. After Drew goes inside the playroom, the boy looks up and says, “You always go shopping.” The first time, I was taken aback, but looked at him, and replied, “Yes, I do.” The boy continued, “Why do you always leave?” I told him that there are stores nearby and it is a good time to do my shopping. He smiled. I smiled. And now my heart melts a little more each time I see this boy. He does not care that I am a stranger. Most special needs children have this wonderful gift of forgoing small talk. They have their own way of being, and it is more than refreshing, we can learn a great deal from them. They live from their hearts, often with no filter. They say what is on their minds, cutting through the chains we so often place on ourselves. They live in the moment.
We have so much to learn from those who are not like us. We can often feel sorry for those who are different, but they have so much to teach us. How to love without fear, speak without lies, and live each and every moment just as we feel.We see others who have a disability or special needs, as a liability, yet it feels as though, we are the ones trapped in a world with rules that often stuff the truth, choke the spontaneousness right out of us, cause us to live anywhere other than right here in this moment.
Yet, we do not need a disability, nor a developmental diagnoses to live in the moment. We can take back our hearts from our minds that so often leads us so often away from the moment. We can do this by becoming aware when we are anywhere but the moment. We can spend time in nature, walking, observing, breathing.
And with practice, we gain back our power. We are no longer reacting to life, but living consciously. We can begin to choose each and every moment to be in the moment. We only need to remember to breathe, and just be. We can see when we are off in another place, and gently bring ourselves back to the moment. For it is in the moment, that we find who we are and why we are here.
In the moment, it does not matter what we do – sit alone or find company, cry or laugh, dance or sing. It only matters that we open our hearts, and honor ourselves in every moment.
And when we do this, something magical happens. For it is in the moment that the fear disappears, the blame evaporates and the truth emerges. It is here that we find peace, forgiveness, forgo addictions, release hate, and find compassion for who we are, as we would a child. We begin to stop caring what others say or think, for loving ourselves, outweighs another’s judgement, a million to one.
If we want something out of our life, whether it be happiness, peace, a soul mate, even greater financial abundance, then the way to receive everything you desire, is to go back to the moment. Everything we want, every question we have, every emotion we feel is right there, inside of us, ready to be loved.
All we really need, is this moment. Lucky for us, our lives are made up of endless moments, endless chances. So if you miss one, remember, there will always be another, waiting just for you.